On the fence about doing a first look on your wedding day?
I’m so excited to have the incredibly talented Nicole Kirshner on Stephy’s Bride Guide, giving her honest opinion on doing a first look. If you are on the fence about how you want to see each other for the first time on the big day, Nicole has some great advice from a photographers standpoint & a bride herself!
Hey guys, Nicole here from Nicole Kirshner Photography. I am sooooo stoked to be here to talk to you guys about first looks and just what I think about them.
First of all, I am going to tell you my opinion from both a photographers stand point and then just as a brides stand point because I am engaged right now and planning my wedding too so I can totally relate to in multiple ways.
When I was 16 years old I decided to buy my first bridal magazine and start planning my wedding (I know, sounds nuts) but I knew that I wanted a fairytale princess wedding. There are so many brides out there that have also dreamed of this moment since they were young and have such high expectations for that day. With that being said, those brides usually know EXACTLY what they want including a first look or not.
From a photographers stand point, I highly recommend doing a first look for multiple reasons. Number one, it saves you sooo much time. Most brides and grooms do not realize how fast their day will go by and just how much time it can save doing a first look. When you decide on doing a first look, you can also do the rest of the bridal party photos so that once the ceremony is over, you just have to worry about the family photos and do not have to keep your guests waiting. The first look is also so special because it is just the two of you. It makes for some of the most amazing photos and the reaction on the grooms face is priceless. A lot of brides do not want to do the first look because they think that it will take away the special moment of the groom seeing his bride for the first time down the aisle. I always tell my brides that no matter what, their man will look at them the exact same way because it will finally sink in that they are marrying the love of their life.
From a bride’s perspective I can see both sides. For me, I want to enjoy my wedding day as much as possible and I want to spend time with my guests. I do not want to have to take as much time away from that with all the photos. I also care more about my photos because at the end of the day when all the flowers die, the music stops, and the cake has been eaten, the only thing left from that day is the memories and the photos. I want as many photos as possible to help me look back at that day so I can relive those moments forever. That being said, even from a bride stand point, I would always say YES to a first look. I want to have more opportunities for photos, I want to enjoy cocktail hour with my guests, and I want to see the look of his face when he sees me for the first time just the two of us.
I always give my bride and grooms the opportunity of a first touch if they do not want to see each other before the ceremony. This is a good option for those that still want the pictures but want to also keep the tradition of not being able to see one another until they walk down the isle.
First looks have become so popular and as a photographer it is my favorite part of a wedding. So if I had to pick between doing a first look and waiting, I would choose first look all the way! Everyone knows that first looks can be truly magical and especially intimate, filled with raw emotion and heartwarming embraces that make for the BEST photographic moments!
Thank you so much Nicole for sharing your professional (and personal) opinion on doing a first look & these stunning photos. Don’t forget to follow Nicole’s Instagram for major photography inspo–engagment sessions, in home sessions, weddings & more! And if you are still in search for the perfect photographer to capture your special moments, don’t hesitate to contact Nicole!