12 Sweet Ways to Make Your Mom Feel Special on Your Wedding Day
Photography by: Emily Michelson
In honor of Mother’s Day today, here are some sweet ways to include your mom throughout the wedding planning process and on your wedding day. Big or small gestures will mean so much to your mom! She is most likely one of the most important women in your life, and has really been there for you since DAY ONE. With all the hype and fun that surrounds countless activities with bridesmaids, sometimes the moms can be overlooked. I’ve put together some unique ideas to ensure your mom feels extra special during the wedding planning process and on the big day.
Leading up to your wedding day
Dedicate a wedding dress shopping day for just the two of you.
This is one of my favorite memories during my wedding planning experience. I planned a whole wedding dress shopping day for just my mom and I. Even though every dress I put on she would say “That’s the one!” and she cried (tears of joy) pretty much the entire time, it’s a memory I will cherish forever! Even if you’ve picked out a dress or know which dress you want it makes for such a special mother daughter day, and I guarantee she will appreciate it so much. It’s a totally different experience than bringing her along with your bride tribe, her opinions might get drowned out and its not nearly as intimate. I also decided to do another separate day with my mom and mom-in-law, at this point they were already great friends so it was such a fun day. But this is a great way to get the moms to get to know each other better if they haven’t spent much time together one on one!
Make Her “Mother of the Bride” Gown-Shopping Experience Special, Too
Don’t let Mom’s attire feel like an afterthought! Plan a special day with just her, instead of trying to find her gown while picking out your own or while shopping with your bridesmaids. I can almost guarantee you that your mom has already been thinking about the dress she will wear to your wedding since before you were even engaged. You want her to stand out and feel beautiful, and not blend in with bridesmaids too much! Your opinion will mean a lot to her, and fill her with compliments! This will be another memory you will cherish when you look back on your wedding planning experience.
Give a Toast Specifically to Your Mom at the Bridal Shower
These days, it’s more and more common for the mother of the bride to host the bridal shower. Be sure to take a few minutes to thank her and show your true appreciation. I think this is a great time to also take the time to tell your future mother-in-law how grateful you are for raising the love of your life, and the excitement you have to join the family.
Be Appreciative and Grateful Throughout the Planning Process
This may seem like a given, but sometimes the wedding planning process can be overwhelming and it’s sometimes easiest to take out your stress on the people you care about the most (your mom!!!). Try to be appreciative for the things your mom does even if it isn’t part of your vision or she is overstepping. Try to find the most polite way to handle the situation and always just be thankful you have the help! Your mom just wants this day to be perfect for you. Sprinkle in thank you texts and calls when you can. Find time to text or call randomly to make her day, not just when vendors get booked or you leave a meeting happy. Treat your mom to a girls day that’s completely unrelated to wedding planning for a little break and just soak up being engaged and celebrating it with your mom!
On Your Wedding Day
Include Her in all the Glam & Getting Ready Fun
Don’t forget to include your mom in the glam process. So often we see pictures of the bride and her bridesmaids getting ready in cute robes and popping champagne. You should include your mom! Don’t just let mom help you get ready, help her get ready as well. You should pay for you mom’s makeup and hair (mother-in-law too)! If you want to keep the robes for just your bridesmaids, a t-shirt is a great and comfortable choice for the mom’s. Just wearing the title “Mother of the Bride” or “Mother of the Groom” is so special.
Write a Special Thank you Card
Just like you put so much effort into putting together gifts to say thank you to your bridesmaids I think its equally as important to do the same for your mom and mother-in-law! The wedding day goes by so fast and you may not have the time to say everything you want to say to your mom, take a few days before to write all you want to say to her. If your mom was a huge part in making your wedding dreams a reality be sure to express your extreme gratitude in the card! Same goes for your soon to be mother-in-law.
Incorporate a Piece of Your Mom’s Gown in a Unique Way
If your mom is okay with you cutting a piece of her gown. There are so many ways you can incorporate it into your own wedding-day look — like turning a piece into a pendant necklace.
You can also turn a piece of lace into your garter, or reuse her veil. One of my favorite YouTubers Elanna McGowan (Formly Elanna Pecherle or known on social media as Elle Pearls) actually wore her mom’s gown, and had it altered to her own style which I think is beyond special!
Same dress!!! How special is that??
But if your mom’s dress is completed outdated and may cost you more to alter, you can use a piece of the dress creatively and a piece of your mom will be with you the whole day! I look at my wedding dress even 4 years later and still think “Wow, that will never go out of style.” I can’t wait to see if I still feel the same way in 30 years, because my mom said she felt to same way about hers… you know the classic 80’s puffy shoulders long sleeve dress… Maybe one day that will make a come back. But incorporating something from your moms dress is such a special touch and perfect for your something old. If you can go back even further in your family generations, like an heirloom from your grandma, ahhhhhh.. emotional I love it so much.
Do a First Look with just your Mom
I think the best way to do a first look photo session with your mom is have her help y0u get into your wedding dress, and capture the moments of her helping you finalize your final wedding look. (Touching up your hair etc) After you are finally in your wedding dress and reality sinks in you are getting married today, capturing your mom’s reaction will be priceless and all the hugs and tears will make for some extremely special candid photos!
Have a Mini Version of Your Bouquet Made for Your Mom
Instead of the basic corsage gift your mom a mini bouquet. I love this idea so much. I had my exact bouquet replicated into a mini version for my mom and mother in law for the ceremony, and later repurposed it into a vase where they were sitting so everyone could find their seats! It doubled as a special gesture, and extra décor so it’s a win win!
My Mother-in-Law & My Mommy (how cute are they????) with their mini bouquets(mini versions of my bouquet)!
Include Her in the Walk Down the Aisle
If you are okay with straying away from traditions, invite your mom to join you and your dad for your walk down the aisle.
Have a Day-of-Coordinator
Allow your mom to enjoy every minute of this day and not worry about the logistics of the wedding by hiring someone to take over the entire work load, including the week before. You don’t want to your mom to miss a special moment because there was an issue behind the scenes she needed to take care of. As nice as it is that mom’s typically want to help with everything, don’t put the pressure of the responsibility of all the wedding duties in the hands of your mother or mother-in- law and leave it to the professionals!
Gift her with A Wedding Album
Once you receive your wedding photos, pick out your favorite pictures and create a wedding album to gift your mom & mother-in-law! I’m telling you any opportunity my mom has to whip out our wedding album she will. It’s a forever keepsake, and let’s them relive the day whenever they please!
I am beyond lucky to call my mom my best friend, and there’s no words I could write in this post that could even begin to express how grateful I am for everything she has done for me in my life, continues to do despite the fact we live in different countries and has shaped me into the women I am today. I feel like I won the mother-in-law jack pot with Nick’s mom. I am one lucky girl!
Happy Mother’s day to all you moms out there, mothers-to-be, grandmas, and to those who have passed but are never forgotten.. Mother’s day should be everyday! I hope you find some inspiration to spoil your mom on your wedding day in this post!